3 Reasons Conflict isn’t a Sign To Quit
I recently watched the movie ‘Jeff Who Lives at Home’ because I love Jason Segel (I’ll spare you the spiel) and a friend of mine said that his character reminded him of me. The character overreads into everything as being some complex plan of the universe…and actually yes, that does sound like me.
It used to be that when a conflict would arise with work I would automatically see it as a sign that it wasn’t the right thing. Now I almost believe the opposite (barring instances where morally they are asking me to do something I don’t believe in):
1. There’s no growth without conflict…
I have come to learn that the jobs in which I grow the most are the hardest jobs. Growing is painful, if your not having conflict you are not being challenged. If growing as a creative is at all important to you, you must embrace conflict!
2. Conflict makes impossible possible…
If you want to be someone who is charting new territory or doing anything original you will meet conflict. Impossible often means ‘we don’t know if it’s possible because no one has ever done it’. When you start trying to do stuff that no one has done before people will fight you on it.
3. The only way to avoid conflict completely is to have no conviction…
If you believe in anything you will have conflict. If you don’t have strong convictions about your work it will suffer for being directionless, vague and passive. The stronger you believe in your work the more conflict you will encounter, so conflict could just be an indication that you are doing something right!
So maybe next time you are working with someone and you start feeling that little tug of anxiety, instead of avoiding the conflict or avoiding the person or job, push into it. Objectively think about what the anxiety is and think about what you can learn or how you can solve it. This is what makes you better!
What do you guys think about conflict in creative work?